“Know thyself.”

Ancient Greek saying

THE ENNEAGRAM FOR YOUR LIFE

WHY INVEST TIME AND MONEY IN YOUR WELLNESS?

Because it matters. Now more than ever, it has become clear how essential it is to invest in our personal development and wellness, because simply put: our well-being has always (and will always) be the most important investment we make in this life.

HOW CAN I CREATE A THRIVING AND FULFILLING LIFE?

A powerful tool for understanding ourselves is THE ENNEAGRAM — a dynamic personality framework of 9 CORE TYPES describing nine different patterns of thinking, feeling, and behaving. All personality typing systems can be useful for personal growth, but what separates the ENNEAGRAM from the rest is that, instead of focusing on our traits and behaviours, it explores the fears, desires, and motivations that lie in the unconscious layers of our personalities and influence how we show up in the world.

BENEFITS OF KNOWING YOUR ENNEAGRAM TYPE

  • THE ENNEAGRAM assists you to identify the underlying fears and desires that motivate your personality traits and patterns.
  • THE ENNEAGRAM helps you to step outside of your personality traits and patterns and observe them more objectively and compassionately from a place of safety.
  • THE ENNEAGRAM not only gives us an understanding of the underlying and subconscious beliefs, defences, attitudes, and fixed behaviour patterns that lead us to get stuck or frustrated with ourselves and life, but also gives us tools to get unstuck from that which is holding us back.
  • THE ENNEAGRAM can help you to get to know yourself and your own true nature. Who are you without your defence mechanisms?
  • Through exploration, THE ENNEAGRAM supports you in expanding your self-awareness and can accelerate your personal growth journey.
  • THE ENNEAGRAM can equip you with tools to manage your emotional triggers so you can show up more healthily for yourself and others in your life.
  • THE ENNEAGRAM helps you to not take your own and others’ personalities personal.

THE 9 CORE MOTIVATIONS AND DESIRES OF EACH TYPE

To Be Needed/Loved

Basic Fear:
Of being unloved, unappreciated and unwanted

Basic Desire:
To feel loved, appreciated and wanted

TYPE 2s feel that they need to be helpful and generous towards others. They prove themselves worthy of love and acceptance by taking the responsibility to serve and support others to the point of sacrificing their own needs.

To Be Valued/Successful

Basic Fear:
Of being worthless, without value and unwanted

Basic Desire:
To feel worthwhile, accepted, and desirable

TYPE 3s strive to achieve success and recognition by being ambitious, competitive, persuasive, and adaptable. They feel that they will earn the admiration, trust, and love of others through their reputation, image and self-image, and impressive achievements.

To Be Significant/Authentic

Basic Fear:
Of having no meaning, no personal significance

Basic Desire:
To find themselves and their significance, to create an identity out of their inner experience

TYPE 4s avoid being mundane, superficial, uninteresting, or mediocre. They seek depth, meaning, intimacy, and self-expression and earn love by being emotionally intense, creative, expressive, artistic, or dramatic. They may also come across as temperamental or spiritually inclined.

To Be Competent/Self-reliant

Basic Fear:
Of being helpless, useless, incapable, and overwhelmed

Basic Desire:
To be capable and competent

TYPE 5s aim at being in control by understanding their world. They are ruled by the head as opposed to the heart, seek learning and insight, and avoid feeling ignorant, inadequate, helpless, and clueless. They earn the respect and acceptance of others by being competent and effective.

To Be Supported/Secure

Basic Fear:
Of having no support & guidance, of being unable to survive on their own

Basic Desire:
To find security and support

TYPE 6s deeply engage with others and their environments to ensure that all is well. They have a strong sense of responsibility and respond to their inner distrust and doubt by being vigilant and testing others' loyalty. They, themselves, can be loyal to a fault and strive for security by aligning themselves with others.

To Be Stimulated/Satisfied

Basic Fear:
Of being deprived and trapped in pain

Basic Desire:
To be happy, satisfied, to find fulfilment

TYPE 7s seek sensation, fun, stimulation, variety, and fulfilment to avoid boredom, disappointment, sadness, helplessness, and/or insecurity. Their spontaneous and versatile behaviour is aimed at pursuing desires that they fear will not be fulfilled by others. They seek pleasure to avoid pain.

To be Strong/Self-Governed

Basic Fear:
Being harmed, controlled, or violated by others

Basic Desire:
To protect themselves, to determine their own course in life

TYPE 8s come across as assertive, wilful, self-directed, and confident. Their core fear is to be controlled, violated, betrayed, and/or limited by circumstances and/or people. They avoid this by taking control in a powerful and self-sufficient way to ensure they are not being put in any kind of vulnerable position.

To Be At Peace/Maintain The Status Quo

Basic Fear:
Of loss and separation; of annihilation

Basic Desire:
To maintain their inner stability and peace of mind

TYPE 9s are fearful of conflict, disharmony, and being disconnected from others. They therefore refrain from questioning or challenging themselves or other people and instead accommodate others to maintain peace, harmony, stability, and the status quo.

To Be Good/Right

Basic Fear:
Of being imperfect, defective, wrong, or corrupt

Basic Desire:
To be good, right, and virtuous - to have integrity

TYPE 1s aim to be principled, good, structured, and focused. Mediocrity or not having high standards is unacceptable to these individuals. They can be expected to overextend themselves to achieve righteousness, and to steer away from what is wrong towards what is virtuous.

Sources: Connect Coaching and cognadev.com/blog_128.html

THE PROCESS

  • The First Session is an individual Typing Session – we explore the unconscious motivations behind your habitual behaviours through conversation and filling in questionnaires to discover which one of the 9 Core Types of the Enneagram you are. Once we’ve determined your Dominant Type, we can start delving deeper…

 

  • In the Second Session, we explore your Type in more depth – how does your Type operate at a low, average, or high level of health. What does your Type tend to do when in a Stressed phase, and what does your Type tend to do when in an Integrated (Healthy) phase. How does your Type influence the cause and resolution of conflict, and more.

 

  • In the Third Session, we identify destructive patterns and discuss options to break the cycle of unhealthy choices by exploring your Enneagram Type’s Wings and Subtypes, and how they can help ‘balance out’ your Type’s traits and behaviours.

 

  • In Subsequent Sessions, I help you incorporate the knowledge you have gained of your Type to deal with specific challenges you face in your life – finances, family, friends, career, or whatever your specific challenge might be.